Straight guys can be seduced if you know what youโre doing
By: Kevin in Miami
Seducing a straight guy is a lot easier than you think. I should know because Iโve hooked up with dozens of them over the past 10-years.
Some of those experiences were fulfilling. Others totally sucked. But all of them happened because I made the conscious choice of taking control.
You see if you want to get with a straight guy, itโs not going to happen through magic. Youโre going to have to put some work into it. But if you play your cards right, you should be able to have your way with relative ease.
Iโm telling you this because the research suggests thatย straight guys go gayย a lot more than you think. But hereโs the thing. They donโt necessarily think what they are doing is โgayโ when they experiment.
Keep this in mind as you go about your business.
Hereโs a quick story to set it up for you. Recently, I hooked up with a 25-year old AT&T tech named Cody*. He was dispatched to my condo for Internet repairs.
The guy is 6โ0 with jet black hair and brownish eyes. Heโs got a medium, muscular build thatโs not overdone. He also has a super masculine presence. While the body types are different, his face and manhood are similar to reality TV personality and body builder, Leo Stronda (see this totally not safe for workย linkย to get an idea).
And one more thing about Cody โ heโs married with kids.
But those last two facts didnโt stop me from draining him out like a helpless ragdoll โ multiple times. In fact, heโs heading over to my place this weekend.
If you are interested in how to seduce straight men like Cody, this article is for you. Iโm going to teach you how to make it happen in ways that might surprise you.
In this article, youโll learn:
- How to take charge with confidence
- The best ways to get his guard down
- Why youย shouldn’tย hide that you are gay
- Ways to build camaraderie
- How to make the first move
- How not to make the experience โgayโ
- Getting him to come back for more
- Taking it slow
- How to handle kissing
- Avoiding the love trap
About Me
Before continuing, I figured you might want to know a little about me. Itโs only fair, right? OK, here it goes. Iโm 35 years old and live in Miami. While Iโm certainly not a model, I do OK in the looks department.
Like you, Iโm into hot guys. And in order to attract the type of men that I like, I work out a lot at my gym. I go out of my way to give off a laid back โbeach boyโ vibe, even though Iโm pretty neurotic.
Finally, I have a thing for manly men. And the biggest turn on in the world (at least to me) is siphoning out a straight guyโs juice and swallowing it whole. I know that may sound sick but Iโm trying to keep it real.
Hereโs why I like it.
When you drain him out, heโs inside of you for the entire day. In other words, his โstraightnessโ is careening through your system.
Finally, I consider myself a top. It doesnโt turn me on at all to try and make some hetero guy bottom. In fact, itโs a real turn off.
In my experience, most breeders wonโt go for that. But they are super curious. And that curiosity is what makes them vulnerable to guys like me โ and hopefully, you.
OK, here are the tips!
1. Get your confidence up
Iโm here to tell youย nothingย will ever happen unless you act with confidence. Not to throw cold water on your plans but when something does happen, itโs not going to be like a gay story fantasy where the dude just decides to put out.
Instead, youโve got to be the one in charge. That process begins by showing confidence. And like it or not, that means carrying yourself in a manly way.
Please donโt be offended by that last part. Iโm just cluing you in from personal experience.
Here are some pointers:
- Give the straight dude a fist bump
- Make eye contact but never stare
- Speak with certainty when you communicate
- Come across as down to earth
- Ditch putting on airs โ opt for a laid back attitude
2. Get his guard downย
I am sure this point will offend some but if you ever want to get that straight guy off, you need toย thinkย like he does.
Iโm not saying you should pretend to be straight but instead, be aware of his mindset.
Hereโs some tips:
- Make small talk about stupid, mundane crap.
- Avoid public conversations and instead, talk to him in private.
- Find areas where you share things in common by using ice breaker questions. Example:ย Have you ever been to XYZ hardware?ย ORย Whatโs the latest withย [fill in sports team].
- Have a conversation but donโt be super agreeable. Straight guys like give and take.
3. Donโt hide that you are gay
One of theย worstย pieces of advice that people give when it comes to seducing a straight guy is to be ambiguous about sexual orientation.
Related:ย Straight man falls in love with gay dude
I say this because if the dude thinks you are 100% hetero, nothing will ever happen.
Instead, I recommend the following:
- Donโt offer it up out of the gate but donโt deny it.
- If he asks you about dating, girls or any of that, simply tell him:ย We play on different teams. If he asks you flat out if you are gay, tell himย yes.
- Once you have revealed your sexual orientation, heโs either going to bolt and never talk to you againย orย he wonโt. If he doesnโt, thatโs aย good thing.
- If he mentions that he has gay friends, be willing to talk about it. Heโs basically giving you a permission slip to be who you are.
- Donโt go overboard. Weave in other aspects of your life that go beyond your sexual orientation.
4. Build Camaraderie
Iโve never once hooked up with a straight guy on the first try. Itโs always been the norm that I invest time in relationship building and establish trust.
If you have followed points 1-4 above correctly, you should be well on your way to strengthening the bond.
Additional tips include:
- Talk about his goals and accomplishments
- Build up his character without coming on too strong.
- Get him to trust you by allowing him to share stuff he doesnโt tell others. Youโre going to be real surprised at what he reveals.
- If you are into football, talk about it. If youโre not, find something else to chat about. Never fake it because heโs going to sniff that out.
- Goof around a bit and donโt be serious
- Allow time to pass. It can take weeks and sometimes months before that magic moment arrives.
5. How to make the first move
This is understandably the most difficult step when it comes to seducing a straight guy. Iโm going to cut through all of the BS and get right to it.
When the time is right, youโll know. Along the way, heโs going to give you important signals you canโt ignore. These include laughing at your jokes, asking you questions and occasionally doing some โbro-touchingโ. Just go with it.
But here is where the rubber meets the road. At some point, you will need toย be directย and let him know you want to mess around.
From experience, the best way to do this is in private. You have a number of choices. Iโll preface this part by saying that if he pushes back againstย anyย of it, donโt take offense. Just drop it and move on.
You may never hear from him again or โ after he thinks about it โ he might be down with it. Thatโs because most straight guys are curious. And according to theย research, a good number of them have had a same sex experience earlier in life.
OK hereโs whatโs worked for me.
- Joke around with him about messing around. Example:ย What does your girlfriend do to get you offย ORย How many times can you go?ย See how he responds.
- If itโs safe to text him (meaning nobody is watching his phone) simply ask him if he wants a bro-and-go. Iโd say 75% of the time, the answer will be yes. Thatโs because most men like getting oral.
6. Avoid making the experience โgayโ
Remember what I mentioned at the start of this article. Most straight guys are curious about what it might be like with another man. But the last thing they want is toย thinkย what they are doing is โgayโ.
We can argue until the cows come home about what constitutes โgayโ, โstraightโ or โbiโ. But thatโs not the point here. The goal is to connect with him and drain him out.
Instead of reinventing the wheel, Iโll direct you to the other article I wrote about how to give aย broย job. The key here is to avoid โmaking loveโ to his Johnson.
Down the road, if he comes back for more, you can amp things up. But that first time, itโs best just to get down to business.
Hereโs what I do to make him completely comfortable and to avoid awkwardness.
- I give him a specific time to show up at my place. Iย neverย do it at his.
- Because he knows what heโs coming over for, I set up the parameters. This means I tell him that weโre just going to go right at it.
- When he arrives at my place, I always have the shades pulled and the lights dimmed. This helps him to feel less awkward and safe.
- If he uses 420 to chill, let him do it. I never supply it or smoke it.
- I get right down to business. Usually, Iโll say something like. โAre you ready?โ When he unzips his pants, I know that heโs DTF.
- When he releases, I pull him close by his calf and swallow.
- Thereโs no small talk afterwards either. He simply zips up and takes off.
7. Making him come back for more
If you have played your cards right, heโs going to get ahold of you in the future. Thatโs because he not only trusts you, he also knows that you do a good job of getting him off.
But here is the thing โ donโt be the first one to reach out. Instead, let him be the one to do it. He may do it by text or a phone call. Either way, heโs the one who needs to make contact.
If you send him a text after draining him out and say something like, โYeah that was hot โ did you like?โ, youโve forgotten rule number 7. If you are good at what you do, there shouldnโt be any question if he was into it.
8. Taking it slow on future encounters
Assuming youโve done everything right, heโs likely going to get in touch with you again. Based on experience, Iโm going to tell you here that this is not a green light for more aggressive play.
Youโre going to have to go through a period where all heโs going to want is quick service. Be open to that. But at some point, heโll curious about what itโs like to do more.
How and what happens next depends on the guy. Iโve met straight but curious men who are all about reciprocation. Iโve met others who want to penetrate [something I donโt do]. And finally, Iโve even met dudes who want to feel what itโs like to get banged out.
The point here is to take things slow and let him be the one to lead. You can encourage here and there but ultimately, heโs got to be in the driverโs seat.
9. Kissing
So youโve been hooking up with this straight guy and things have been escalating. Thereโs a part of you that badly wants to make out with him but youโre not sure if itโs cool.
Hereโs my best advice. Donโt do it unless he makes a move in that direction. I mention this because if he starts to think itโs getting emotional, heโs going to pull back.
If he does want to make out, let him be the alpha (at least at first). Later on, you can show him how guys really kiss by reading this guide onย how to make out with men.
10. Donโt fall in love
The last point Iโll make is to avoid falling in love with him. Yes, this is easier said than done. That first time you drain him, youโre going to feel a bunch of emotions. Youโll even be tempted to think of him in boyfriend terms.
Whatever you do โย donโt.
Regardless of what you think of his sexual orientation, you need to recognize that he considers himself to be โstraightโ. We both know that the minute the two of you started messing around, his heterosexuality went out the window.
But thatโs not an argument you want to have with him โ or one that you will win.
Instead, remember your connection with him is physical. And it can be that way for a long time. But if you try to make him into your lover, heโs going to run for the hills.
Thereโs plenty of gay men out there that want to date you and husband up. Go for those guys! Think of the straight man you are doing as just that โ a regular FB.
OK, thatโs it for now. If you are looking to watch straight guys get it on for ideas, there’s a cool site called straight guys uncovered. Might be worth your time.
